Discussion Questions:
- Audrey Davidheiser talks about taking deep belly breaths to reset the nervous system. Have you tried this practice in your own life or leadership? What effects did you notice?
- Tod Bolsinger mentions that “anxiety makes you stupid” and that leaders need to learn to calm down to make wise decisions. Do you agree with this? Can you think of a time when anxiety clouded your judgment?
- The conversation highlights the vulnerability of leading in unfamiliar or stressful situations. How do you usually respond when you feel out of your depth as a leader?
- Why do you think it is challenging for leaders to admit that they are anxious or not calm in the moment?
- In the episode, Tod describes a 30-second process to move from being “fiery mad” to a state where you can make wise decisions. What might this process look like for you?
- The concept of moving from the “red zone” (anxiety) to the “blue zone” (mission-focused calm) is introduced. What practices help you get from red to blue, especially during tense interactions?
- Markus brings up situations like antagonistic meetings or tough conversations. What strategies have you found helpful to avoid “vomiting out” something you’ll regret when under pressure?
- The episode suggests that noticing physical signs—tight stomach, holding breath, veins in your neck—can help identify when you’re anxious. What are your physical tells?
- What role do you think spirituality and faith can play in helping leaders manage their anxiety and return to a place of calm?
- Tod and Markus stress that “calming down is a leadership skill.” How can organizations or leadership teams cultivate this skill together? What are some simple practices that could be implemented at group meetings?
